motivation

whenever eman and i get into an argument and i start pointing out his inconsistencies, he always asks, "so what's your point hannah? are you trying to prove to me how right you are and how wrong i am? what's your motivation for pointing these things out?" and it always frustrates me, because, of course, i DON'T want to be doing that, but the fact that he can see how i AM doing that unnerves me. but still, i'm glad that he does it too, because i think it keeps my ego in check. it makes me think about my true motives, and it forces me to look at things from his perspective. i guess although i hate it, i realize i need it.