maturity

in observing others and reflecting on my quiet times and readings, here's what i've learned so far about maturity:

• it's not so much marked by what you do or say, but by your perspective and attitude. the actions naturally follow.

• it's not above self-discipline

• it demands honesty with oneself. you don't deny or downplay your less-than-noble characteristics, but face them and commit to change.

• it's not concerned with reputation. just with truth.

• it's not dependent on circumstances. when times are good, you are thankful. when times are bad, you sweat and moan, bitch and groan, but only for a bit, and then you press on in good faith that "this too shall pass" and prepare for the next step or chapter in life.

• it doesn't entertain self-pity for very long. rather, you asses the situation and determine whether or not there are steps that can be taken to make the situation better. if there is, you are proactive in taking them. if there isn't, you wait for an opportunity, keeping your eyes and ears open.

• it seeks to enjoy life, both in good seasons and bad. the mature person understands that time lost cannot be regained. so he pursues interests and knowledge in areas he's not familiar with, and instead of being ashamed or afraid of his unfamiliarity, is open to learning more and enjoys the process.

• it demands a certain amount of selflessness. the mature person doesn't spend too much time ruminating about his stature, position or reputation. rather, he chooses to focus on other people and how he can best serve.

• it requires balance. the mature person takes in spiritual food so that he is able to give out. he knows when he is getting dry, and takes it upon himself to be alone with the Lord.

• it is actively pursued. the mature person never reaches a point where he says to himself, "i am now mature." rather, he realizes it's a never-ending process, and faithfully continues to pursue it.

i'm sure there's more...but i've yet to discover it.